First, be fixed in the consciousness that your self is the immortal Atma, which is indestructible, which is holy, pure and divine. That will give you unshakeable courage and strength. Then you must develop mutual love and respect. Tolerate all kinds of persons and opinions, all attitudes and peculiarities. The relationship must be based on love, not fear. Above all, be good, honest and well-behaved. (SSS Vol.5, p. 40)